Emotional Intelligence

We all talk & discuss about being more intelligent both academically & emotionally but we always find a few people who are in the latter half that is emotionally intelligent. Why does this happen ? What makes that other half a class apart ? & Can we be one of them ? I will try answering these & some more questions on emotional intelligence through this blog.

The difference

Many times 2 terms emotional intelligence (EI) & emotional quotient (EQ) are used like bread & butter , also as synonyms to each other.

We should know that these 2 terms are as different as they sound

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the quality a person has on the contrary Emotional quotient (EQ) is the measurement of emotional intelligence just like IQ.

The higher the EQ more emotionally intelligent is the person.

The Need

EI is extremely significant for every individual as it helps you to cope up better with the situations around you irrespective of they are good or bad.

EI helps you to understand situations, people around you better & also helps you to understand yourself more clearly.

EI helps you to know, understand, analyse & control your emotions in the way that can help you focus & make sound decisions even in the most critical times.

EI is more of a skill so the only way to develop it is through sheer practice. Its just like communication the more you practice the better it gets.

EI is not given that much importance in day to day life because its a soft skill & its application is so instinctive that it goes without notice, but if paid closer attention EI has a major contribution in every response a human being delivers to everything going on around him /her.

The Application

EI gets applied in almost everything that we do, say & think in our daily lives, in simple terms if our personality is our body then EI is the soul ! 

To apply, practice & develop emotional intelligence the only one step to be carried out is Self Analysis.

The better you know yourself the more you can achieve control on your emotions easily.

To start getting better at self analysis think about whatever you say, do & think about anything in your life. For example if you talk back at someone & that ends up in a useless arguement & you realise later that had you been silent your time would be saved next time you can be cautious before you impulsively respond to anything.

To know yourself better think about hypothetical situations & how you would respond to them the condition being make the situation as tricky as possible to handle, now you have to handle it without losing your calm, being intelligent, not over reacting & making the best decision you can to find a solution. 

For example you are a manager of a company & have to convince your CEO for a new project approval. This situation takes the best out of you to think what can be done to sound smart & convincing at the same time? 

To handle such situations just bookish academic knowledge on your project won't help you need to be well in control of how you phrase each & every word to convince your superior & understand him / her on emotional level to tap right into their minds & get a yes from them. This is where EI comes to help.

A best example in daily life is advertisements based on sentiments of love, care , happiness always attract us towards the product more than ads which are just informative.

EI teaches us the power of relation & makes us good at relationships in our life.

The capability

EI has immense power to help enhance capability of a person , an emotionally intelligent person feels more sound , strong ,mature & is capable to face every situation life throws at him.

EI teaches us to be sympathetic, kind but more than that it makes us empathetic & generous, a person who is emotionally intelligent always can relate more effectively with people who are in problem, emotionally intelligent person has an enhanced sense of understanding the people around him better than others because he can relate to people on an emotional level. 

That doesn't mean people who are not emotionally intelligent are cruel or stone hearted EI just makes you better at understanding your surroundings 

It works just like polish , gives you extra shine !

The myths

Some people have this notion that being emotionally intelligent makes a person control his / her emotions which ends up in not being expressive at all.

Well thats not the case by being emotionally intelligent one learns :

1. How to express emotions ?

2. When to express emotions ?

3. How to not over react or be impulsive ?

4. How to not be cold hearted & careless ?

Always remember EI is about being emotionally intelligent not emotionally inert.

There is also a misconception that to establish a control over the emotions some very stringent restrictions & rules have to be followed. Thats not true! One definitely needs to have a disciplined & dedicated approach but there is no need to torture yourself.

EI is the one that teaches us love yourself first in order to love others.

Being emotionally intelligent allows you to be vulnerable & rather be good at turning your vulnerability into your biggest strength 

A person just needs to know what would be the consequences of the things that he / she says or does on their self & those around them in any given situation & in the given time attempt the best choice with a calm mind & act accordingly.

The tools

There are few tools that a person needs to apply & practice EI

1. Peace of mind - to be achieved & to be maintained

2. Clear conscience - be true to yourself & the decision will come out the best

3. Clarity, focus - be clear on what you want

4. Dedication, hard work - give your 200%

5. Passion for life - love your life, yourself , your work & there is no pain !

The teachings

EI teaches us the following

1. Understand yourself & others better

2. Understand your & other's emotions better

3. Better at self analysis

4. Helps in making best decisions

5. Teaches us empathy, sympathy, kindness & generosity

6. Teaches us to love yourself

7. Gives a new perspesctive to look at life

8. Makes us not only academically but emotionally intelligent

I hope this blog makes you aware & keen to take interest in EI & apply & practice it in your daily lives.

EI makes us a better human being & hence we can make this world a better place

For me personally, EI has changed my view towards the life hope it does the same for you

Thank you so much for reading!

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