Relationships - Makers / Breakers For Us

We have all been into relationships , we all know how it is. But still everytime we enter one its all new & starts from the start. Everything continues to astonish us just the same way or sometimes even more than prior relationship.

This blog will explore how relationships can be makers or breakers for us & how we can hold ourselves in both the cases.

Introduction

The first thing that comes to the mind when talking of relationships is a romantic relationship. For me any relationship be it romantic or not needs same efforts to be taken by both the people who are in it to sustain it & allow it to flourish. A relationship cannot be fruitful when it is one sided. 

There are so many aspects of relationship which can decide whether it is going on the right path & if not there are subtle indications which should be picked up by us in order to walk out of the relationship with as much dignity left in it.

Your Partnership

Relationship is all about the partnership you have with your significant other. As long as it is unshakable everything will continue to fall in place , the moment there is a crack in it things start to fall apart , everything just seems to run out of essence & finally the partnership cripples down. To prevent this from happening its very important to keep few things in mind 

• Know your partner inside out, allow them to know you the same.

• Both take responsibilty, accountability for what you say & do & the repercussions of it on each other's lives.

• Approach things practically too, just being emotional doesn't work. Practical & wise approach is needed.

• Be critical but not cynical about each other. Yes, its absolutely fine to tell your partner that they are making a mistake but make them realise in a way that assures your love for them & not a harsh scolding.

• Argue but try to avoid fights. This is easier said than done but not impossible. Its ok to have different views but come to a point where you both respect each other's choices & not taunt one another for it.

• Both get involved in exploring your common interests, hobbies & pursue them actively. Have a healthy competition, this is the greatest way to spend quality time.

• If you are in a long distance relationship, make sure when you meet don't waste a second prioritising anything else. The last thing you want is your partner demanding your attention.

I know that every relationship is unique, so are the 2 people in it because human beings are unique, the above mentioned points are mostly similar in all relationships & the key factors which can make or break the partnership in most cases. So implementing them jointly can definitely help.

Your Partner

Your partner is the next focus after your partnership in your relation. Everyone has a unique partner who is special to them in uncountable ways, we all are fond of somethings which are unique to our partners , & so are they fond of us due to what we are.

To keep the charm of relationship alive between you two , both of you need to make an effort & do the needful to make it grow stronger as the years pass by. 

There are somethings which you are good at & there are some at which your partner is good at. Now all it takes is just to figure it out who is good at what & straightway divide the work accordingly !! Your partner is the only link to your partnership so its very important that as they keep you happy , you can do it too.

Here are few things which can be done 

• Food - nothing sparks your partner like a good hearty meal, so if you are the chef of the house then never miss out on giving your partner some special treat with or without a reason.

• Gifts - who doesn't love gifts ? So why make your partner wait for them until a birthday , anniversary or any special occasion ? Try giving a gift just to express how much you adore your partner & both of you will be on cloud nine.

• Love language - this is something specifically for romantic relationship. Know the love language of your partner. Some people prefer verbal expression while some prefer physical expression of love. Understand what your partner prefers & make an effort to express your love in that language. Ask them to do the same.

• Respect - most of the times we speak about receiving respect but don't talk about giving it. Our partners deserve respect from us equally the way we deserve it from them.

• Trust - never trust blindly , you can question your partner when you are in doubt. But trust them when they assure you of something with solid reasonable answer. Identify the fine line between care & suspicion.

These are just the key factors it takes all of this & much more to make a partnership work & keep the relationship alive. There so many little & big things we know about our partners & discover a dozen everyday even if its been years together , so continue to pick these clues along the way & take necessary actions on time. That will surely help you keep your partner happy.

You

What is relationship without you ? You are the most important aspect of your relationship. mostly we tend to prioritise our partner first in our relationship , but always remember that being yourself is the ultimate essence of your relationship. The last thing you can do is losing yourself in order to find your partner in a relationship be it of any kind. 

You need to accept the one most important fact that this relationship & your significant other are a part of your life. They are not your life. 

We often say you are my life to each other but always remember its only good until its a phrase to express love , if it becomes a reality you will be in problems.

It is crucial to be yourself because the only reason your partner loves you is for what you are & who you are. Losing this quality can cost you loss of your partner & your relationship.

To prevent this from happening , try the following

• Time - giving time to your partner is imortant, but giving time to yourself is even more important. If you are not happy how will you make your partner happy. Don't sacrifice on things that give you joy & nor let your partner do that to themselves or to you.

• Space - have atleast one brief period of time in a day where you both are completely cut off from each other so when you meet you have all stacked up talks to spend time on. You will enjoy it. 

• Space - if you are in a long distance relationship , flip the scenario & have atleast one brief period of time in a day where you completely give attention to each other.

• Communication - this is the heart of your relationship, not all the people are good at vocalising their feelings & thoughts so if you are someone who has same struggles let your partner know about it , so they don't misunderstand your silence but also don't give it as an excuse, learn to communicate make an effort slowly but surely to be good at vocalising your thoughts.

Apart from this if you ever face a situation where you need to take a stand for yourself & walk out of relationship , don't shy away from it especially when it is for your betterment. You have the right to make your call when the time comes & so does your partner , so never let anyone take advantage of you being nice to them.

Finally......

Every relationship is different & it is upto the 2 people in it to decide whether the relationship is a maker or breaker for them.

We all go through relationships unsuitable for us ,but often we take it as the biggest whiplash on ourselves what we should do is learn from them & never repeat those mistakes.

Be grateful to all the people who have come & left your life at the right time for you to grow.

If you have faced a betrayal or rejection, in the long run I am sure that you will not regret it because it has taught you something in life.

My only hope from this blog is that may everyone have a relationship which makes them a better partner, a better person & a great soulmate.

And to all those who have faced a loss , look ahead life has gifts in store for you , never loose optimism.

Thank you so much for reading ! I hope you enjoyed it.

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