The 3 Golden Values of Life

 Life is based on values & we all know that, but sometimes we fail to recognise how integral they are in maintaining the balance of the life i.e. sometimes we fail to realise their importance, or forget to acknowledge their contribution which shapes us as a person & gives our lives a new dimension.

This blog will shed light on 3 Golden Values which are head & shoulders above the rest of the lot & explore them in an interesting way.

Introduction

As kids growing up we are taught many things like manners, good habits , ethics & values which shape our personalities & pay dividends in latter stages of life. As we mature more & more we learn to wear different masks , have different faces ; one for public, one for private & so on there is nothing wrong in it but the common mistake we all make while juggling this entire act is that we all tend to mask these values too.

Somewhere the genuine us starts to loose itself & we evolve more & more as a fake person just perfect to please others but not fit for any deeper human to human connection. In some ways we loose that soulfulness , spirituality inside us which in presence of these values wouldn't happen.
Lets take a look at them individually & find out the 3 golden values of life.

• Kindness

Kindness is the most crucial value one can have to lead their life, it exemplifies compassion, care, humanity, affection, empathy, love & pure hearted nature of a person towards everything in life.
We are always " told" to be kind but I think its a shame when somebody has to ask us to express kindness because it should be rather an instinct of a human being to be kind.
In all these years & even now every other day we see how kindness can dissolve the most bitter barriers between people, kindness teaches us to lead life in a peaceful & soulful way. The effect of kindness is like a healing touch which can cure even the deepest of the wounds.

To be kind to others we first must be kind to ourselves, that in itself is an art. We have to learn to not be punitive to ourselves at the same time strike the balance between uplifting our souls & constantly strive hard to achieve the standard that we have set for ourselves. When we learn this we can share it with everyone & everything around us. Always remember its the strongest weapon to have in the toughest of the times.

Practising kindness is simple task, you have to do what you can at its best & then the results shall follow. For me , kindness is :-

• feeding any animal or bird who comes at my doorstep

• helping a person in any way I can to my best capacity

• purchasing any goods sold by roadside kids just with a thought that this kid won't sleep hungry tonight

• Thanking someone if he / she has helped me in any way.

These are little things, if you don't practise them nothing matters but if you do the difference it makes is impossible to put in words.

• Humility / Modesty

Amongst all the values this one is the most fragile, delicate & volatile value to handle. But the people who pass this test are always found at the pinnacle of success. Also its very interesting if we keenly notice the number of people who lack this value is more than those who have it.
Humility / Modesty is being down to earth, not let any kind of success, achievement, triumph enter your head. No matter how huge you are as a person you should still be able to stick to your roots, never forget where you came from , the hardships you & your loved ones put into making you what you are.

Being humble takes hardwork , courage, purity & honesty. It requires a large heart, broad mind & open vision without any barriers, superstitions, cynicism coming into it. It also deals with how well you know yourself, the people who are completely aware of their capacity are always humble, they never have any ego or attitude because they know they have nothing to prove , their work speaks for itself. Such people lead by example , if we wish to go close to what they have achieved we must practise being humble & hopefully one day we can be one of them.

I said this value is fragile & volatile , thats because we all know so many examples of people who changed after they became successful, rich, earned high status, stepped up their life in general. Money, success, fame, popularity, materialistic luxury tests us as a human being, yes they are temptations to certain extent & I encourage chasing them too but not to a point where once someone gets it they are no longer a human being. Because these things stop us from being modest, stop us from acknowledging the fact that gratitude is very important & we must always be grateful for what we have as its never a singular triumph but a team effort.

• Generosity

This value can define you can as human being in true sense in all facets of life. If generosity is combined with kindness & modesty the outcome is gem of person. Such people are extremely rare to find, one must be really blessed to have such company with them. Generosity is wholeheartedness , the gesture of giving back selflessly & unconditionally to others.
Generosity is very essential as it holds the strings of relationships together. If we lack in giving or giving back to one another the relationship stops to exist. Also generosity is something which is taught to kids when they are asked to "share" with their siblings & family.

Being generous doesn't always mean huge monetary donations to charity, or enormous social work for the poor & needy , of course above two & many such ways are the best efforts one can do to express generosity but on an individual scale also being generous is very simple task.

• Helping an elderly person reach somewhere, cross the road or climb the stairs.

• Genuinely appreciating someone's good work

• Being gracious in defeat whenever you compete in any competetion.

• At the end be generous to yourself & take care of your well being otherwise you can never be generous to others.

• Significance

Significance of the above 3 golden values is the same as the significance of soul inside the body. Without these values one can't be called a human being. They are the 3 main pillars of humanity.
We all have seen how these values can not only improve one's own but also other's lives but the flip side to the coin is what happens when someone who is kind, modest & humble gets treated badly by people ? What happens when others take undue advantage of your good behaviour ?

Such betrayals make us cynical & often people loose their faith in these values. But the solution to above problems is not quitting to be good its just about learning with whom to be good. There are all kinds of people around us , we can't deal with everyone in same way, so learn to recognise who is genuine, who is fake, what are their intentions etc & then treat them accordingly. Well, inspite of all this sometimes we may fail in recognising people, in such times don't be harsh on yourself , take it as a learning experience & don't repeat your mistakes next time.

Situations, time, people & conditions around us will continue to be good & bad. The real test of our goodness comes in adversities. When downfalls in life are unable to change you from a good person to bad one you know you have won.
Practising Kindness + Humility + Generosity = Positive, Happy & Peaceful Life.

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