Self Respect : Have one, Give one

The concept of self respect is very broad & almost endless, also the perspective of looking at it differs greatly from person to person. It really starts & ends on how one defines it for themselves as well as for others.

In this blog I am putting forth my view on self respect for oneself & for others.

Introduction

Self Respect is a value which we all possess but we need to make ourselves aware of it & give it importance above all in our daily lives, it makes us who we are & gives us our true identity also it makes us believe in ourselves which results in getting people believe in us.

Self respect is something which is innate but also something that can be developed & enhanced with better practice & choosing not to give up on it when the time calls.

Belief & Self Respect

Alot of times belief & self respect get used synonymously or collectively but we need to understand that these two concepts are different & unique in their own ways.

• Belief

Belief is something that you choose to invest in a situation, thing, person or condition.

You have a choice most of the times whether or not to believe the given situation to you, you can decide whether investing your belief in something would be fruitful or not & if not you have the liberty to walk out.

Belief also varies from person to person, as in some people may believe in a morning ritual some don't. So everyone has their own right to make the choice which fits them the best.

Also very importantly when one chooses not to believe in something not always that comes with a great cost. For e.g. If I choose not to believe in having a morning ritual nothing matters, its perfectly fine & I don't have to worry about my choice.

Belief when comes to having in oneself makes that person capable, more decisively sound & convincing to others because once you are clear & dead set on what you want it is very easy for you to tell others about it. You have no second thoughts & ambiguity about your goal, this helps you to clarify others' doubts regarding the goal at the same time convincing them to join you. This is very important, you have to believe in yourself if you want others to believe you.

• Self Respect

Unlike belief self respect doesn't give you the choice or the liberty to walk out rather there is no room for backing out at all when it comes to self respect. Self respect if lacking can come with a huge costs for person & also it gives you a regret for a lifetime which is impossible to correct.

Self respect as a value doesn't vary from person to person only the perspective of looking at it can change. For e.g. 2 employees make a similar mistake one stands for himself & other doesn't take it very seriously now each of us can have a view on who is on the side of self respect. We all will have different opinions on this situation & everyone would be correct in their own place looking through their own view. 

If we loose our self respect or compromise on it then that decision is cause for regret of a lifetime also its certainly the one which cannot be corrected. If any situation, condition or person demands the sacrifice / compromise on our self respect in any form then we should give a thought before acting on it.

Self Respect & Ego

• Self Respect

The very fine line between self respect & ego is overstepped by many of us alot of times. Self respect is knowing oneself thoroughly, knowing your capability, strengths, weakness & taking sole responsibility for it. Self respect should be the top priority of every person in their lives, it should not be compromised / sacrificed for anything or anyone.

Self respect teaches you to uplift & uphold yourself without encouraging a tendency to underestimate others. Having self respect for oneself does not give you the right to talk down others or treat them badly. Instead self respect teaches us to treat everyone equally.

Self respect makes you humble, grounded, polite & helps you to get rid of arrogance , ruthlessness, impolite nature. It prevents you from becoming rude, ungrateful, unkind person. With self respect you learn more about life & how to live life better also much fuller.

• Ego

Ego is something which is a prodigy of arrogance or rudeness. Ego is not always bad but certainly not always good especially if it ends up putting a negative effect on the people associated to you.

Its not bad to have an ego rather one should have it but ego should not come in the way of any situation or person where the result will be negative.

Ego can hurt other people , it can make you paranoid, overconfident, arrogant , rude & unempathetic & unkind towards people around you which leads to alot of heartbreaks & loss of good relationships in life. Because of ego you can loose the people who really love , value, cherish you & want to see your growth. 

Ego makes a person think of himself superior to others even in cases where it is not so. An egoistic person will never be appreciative, grateful, kind, empathetic to other people around him / her. Instead they would constantly talk down to people , brag about themselves & would leap forward to take credit of every success even if they play no part in achieveing it.

Ego & self respect have a very fine line which is tough to notice but its very crucial to know where are you stepping, people many times think that they took stand for themselves out of self respect but don't realise its actually the ego they are talking about. A stand taken out of self respect will propell your growth in future & you won't regret that choice , but the one taken out of ego will hurt people , so give yourself a check next time before you make a decision whether its really self respect or ego.

A positive ego can help you to judge yourself better & make you aware of your strengths , capabilities also the potential you have. It will help you to compete with yourself rather than with others, it will help you to strive to become a better version of yourself. 

Giving Respect

Giving respect is more of reciprocative gesture that comes as a result of having a self respect for oneself. When a person respects himself only then one can give the respect back to others around them.

Giving respect has to come from within & not something which should be imposed on oneself. It can be expressed through any gesture or completely without any gesture. Giving respect can reflect through one's behaviour towards people around them, it doesn't always have to be curtsy or addressing sir or mam , being grateful, humble, kind & a good human being is giving respect for me.

Treating everyone equally , having dignity of labour, being non judgemental , broadening your vision about life, listening to everyone's thoughts & not trying to be dominating or being bossy on others just for suppressing them all this is nothing but giving respect.

Give respect to yourself, people & life , give it unconditionally & you will know life is worth living & respect is worth giving.

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